Happy People

7 Things Happy People Do Differently

What makes some people genuinely happy while other always seem to be negative and stressed out? While everyone has the occasional “bad day,” happy people tend to implement certain things in their lives that make the “bad days” few and far between. As you will see below, happy people have different attitudes and practices that separate themselves from negative, unhappy people. The good news is that all of these attitudes and practices are a matter of choice and can be learned!

Here are 7 things that Happy People do differently…

1. Treat everyone with kindness

People treat you the way you treat them. If you treat everyone with kindness, you will have it reciprocated more times than not. Happy people smile and are more friendly because what they feel inside shows through to others! Since happy people make others feel good and treat others with kindness, they generally are able to build long lasting and meaningful relationships.

2. Don’t hold grudges

If someone is not nice to them or does not treat them kindly, happy people shake it off and don’t hold grudges. This is easier said than done! Holding a grudge does not affect the person with whom you have the problem with, but it will directly affect your attitude and happiness. Learn to let go and forgive. If you do not let go and forgive, you allow the other person to have power and control over your emotions. Remember this, you can only control two things: Your actions and your attitude. Don’t let negative people gain control over these.

3. Have thankfulness and appreciation

Are you thankful for the things that you have rather than looking at the things you don’t have? Happy people don’t continuously look at what they don’t have, but instead appreciate what they do have. They cherish the time that they have with family or are thankful that they have a roof over their heads, even if it is not their dream home. By being appreciative and thankful for what they have now helps them to keep things in perspective and allows them to keep a great attitude.

4. See issues as challenges not problems

Whenever somebody tells me that they have a problem I correct them and say you have a challenge. What is the difference? The way I see it, a problem is more permanent. When you have a problem, you are essentially saying that you cannot fix it and, “it is what it is.” I view challenges as something that is fixable or something that can be overcome. It may not be easy, but with a well thought out plan and a quick attitude adjustment, you can overcome challenges. Happy people don’t see every issue as a problem, but they see issues as a challenge that they can and will get through.

5. Don’t make a mountain out of an ant hill

Happy people keep things in perspective. They don’t get all stressed out or anxious about things that they either cannot control or really won’t matter over time. My mentor always stresses that if it won’t matter a year from now, don’t stress over it. Happy people don’t stress about the past and they don’t become anxious about the future. They keep an even keel and are emotianally stable.

6. Enjoy the moment

Happy people enjoy the present moment without looking too far into the future or rummaging through their past. They are able to stop and smell the roses and savor the moment as it is happening. I love hiking and enjoying nature. It allows me to stop for a minute and separate myself from the hustle and bustle of the big city to slow down and enjoy the moment in peace. Happy people are able to filter out all of the background noise and enjoy the here and now.

7. Dream bigger

Happy people dream bigger. Since they have a positive attitude, their outlook on life and what they can accomplish is greater than someone who is mean and negative. A person that is happy will generally seek to accomplish more because they have a positive self image and truly feel that they will accomplish their goals.

As you can see, these are all attitudes and actions that you can choose to adopt into your life. Again, you have control over two things: your actions and your attitude. Choose to take control over these things and choose to be Happy!!

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To Your Happiness!

Ken Cloutier

 

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How To Draw People To You

There are basic human hungers in which all people crave. Having an understanding of these hungers will help you to become a person that others are drawn to. This can be in business, at work, in school, or with your family.

Have you ever known of an individual who seems to get along with everybody? They meet someone and a few minutes into the conversation it is as if they had known the other person for years? The reason that this person is able to get along and draw others to him is based on some key principles that I will share.

The first hunger that all humans have is Acceptance. Acceptance is simply letting the other person be his true self without having to put up any facades or being someone who they are not. When we accept others, we take both their strengths and their weaknesses and still like them just the way they are. Nobody is perfect and as a person with a personality that people are drawn to, you understand this and don’t pass judgement on the other individual. In other words, just because someone is not like you, you can still accept and like them anyway.

The second hunger is Approval. Approval is different than acceptance in that acceptance deals with negative aspects of a person in addition to the positive aspects. We accept a person even with their flaws. Approval is finding something that we like in the other person. You can always find something positive about someone just as easy as it is to find something negative about the same person. Your attitude and personality will determine which you focus on. Someone with a great attitude and positive personality will find the good in others, while the person with a negative attitude and negative personality will tend to find the negative in others. Which personality set do you have? One of the best ways to show approval is for you to go out of your way and praise non-obvious things about another person. For example, if you are complimenting an athlete on how well their physique is, that is an obvious compliment. However, if you complement them on something not so obvious like the fact that they are great at writing poetry and the praise will really have a positive impact on them. I know that is a lame example, but you get the point!!

Finally, Appreciation is the third human hunger. When you appreciate something, you place a high value on it. So if you appreciate another person, you are placing a high value on them. When people feel appreciated, they almost automatically like the person who appreciates them and, in turn, places them in high value. The person who draws others to him knows how to show an individual in little ways that he values him. Here are some ways in which you can show others that you value them:

– Thank them

– Treat people as individuals, not as a group

-Make people feel special and not just like everyone else

ID-100129426If you begin using these three principles that all humans crave, you will begin to attract others to you and be that person who seems to get along with any and everyone!For more information on how to develop the personality that others will be attracted to as well as additional principles, click here and register for my free 10 Day Blueprint.

To your successful personality!!

Ken Cloutier

 

 

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